Parenthood planning is all the reflection and thinking, learning and researching, planning, discussing, agreeing, deciding, and action-taking you need to do, before you take the leap into parenthood.
Because becoming a parent is the biggest decision most of us make in our lifetimes. It's certainly the most irreversible decision. Planning helps us make better decisions.
Secondly, because parenthood is hard on parents, and planning makes it easier and more enjoyable.
And finally because planning helps us take control, and feel more positive about parenthood before we get there.
Let's start from the beginning. What - exactly - is involved in parenthood planning?
First, figure out 'Your Why' - why are you doing this?
The other topics relate more to 'Your How' - how you will do it. First, there's the practicalities of getting there:
Next, there's the 'Big 4' foundations that will support your plan:
Then, there are the 'Big 4' planning topics you'll need to make decisions about:
Finally, there's how you'll keep it together, and have fun along the way:
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You might be asking, what's the difference between these topics and the 'usual' things we learn about when we become parents (antenatal classes, birth plans and newborn care)?
The 'usual' things we learn are things we can learn 'just in time', just before we need to know them.
Parenthood planning helps you put in place the fundamentals (the 'building blocks' of parenthood) in your life - the kind of preparation which may take time, but which has the most benefit.
Addressing these topics helps you to:
There are 10 principles which define the way I do parenthood planning.
The best place to start is by taking our free Self-Assessment, which will help you figure out how close you are to being ready for parenthood, where the gaps are in your planning, and what matters most to you.
It's a detailed 15-30 minute questionnaire (without the need to do any writing!), and at the end of it you'll get a detailed report. You can compare notes with your partner, or use it to prioritise your planning. Get started here.